I hope you all had a nice summer. When we came back
from our holiday trip and I opened my mailbox, I was quite surprised from the
number of emails I got. One email was from a young woman named Sophie. She
wrote me a very inspiring story, so I asked her for permission to publish it on
my blog. Here it is:
Dear Wendy,
My name is Sophie and I’d like to thank you for promoting female
self defense. Let me share a story with you demonstrating the positive impact your blog
has on empowerment and safety of young women, so needed in these dangerous
times. I have a 22-year-old boyfriend; his name is Sam. We both study architecture
in our third year at the university. We met at a matriculation party and have been
together since. I can’t even express how much I love him. He is so caring, gentle,
and good looking too ๐.
Two months ago, something bad happened. I was working on an
important assignment with my classmates till late night at the university
premises. Once we finished, I walked
towards my dormitory, which is located a couple of blocks away. When I was
passing through a dark passage, I heard footsteps behind me coming closer. I turned
back and saw a strong, mean looking guy. He had his pants opened and his disgusting
penis was hanging out. I got scared like hell. I speeded up, as did he.
Luckily, at some moment I managed to get out quickly from the passage on a busy
street. When I looked back again the man disappeared.
Although I got over the initial shock, the bad thoughts what
could have happened lingered for long. I
somehow became depressed, restless, and unfocused. And Sam noticed it. He worried
and enquired what’s going on. I think he thought there might be another guy
because I refused sex with him twice. I insisted everything is fine and I just
got a little bit tired and stressed from some classes. Luckily, a couple of
days later I got more relaxed and during a dinner together I finally revealed
him the real reason.
So it happened that I found your blog๐. I have to admit it was
an eye-opener. Self defense has never been a topic of any chats with my friends
or classmates. Before I thought that it all
means that clichรฉ: punch him in the nose, kick him where it counts and run.
But after reading your blog I realized how important the last resort self
defense is. Of course, I have seen some movies featuring groin kicks or knees,
but I have never thought how this male vulnerability can be used to get out from
even the most extreme situations. I am not very proud of it, but let me tell
you what happened one night I spent with Sam. We were just fooling around in a bed, and I don’t know why I gently took a hold of his
very prominent bulge.
I surprised him with a question. “Are they really so sensitive?”
“What do you
mean Sophie?” He replied totally confused.
“I read online
that testicles should be one of the prime targets when a woman is fighting a
rapist.”
“Hmm, well, yes
it hurts there but movies exaggerate it a little bit. Do not focus on balls
only.”
“May I try
something?” I asked
him.
He unsuspectedly agreed. “Sure,
go ahead.”
I slipped my hand inside his boxers and got a firm grip on
his left testicle.
And I squeezed! I mean, really squeezed. He yelped in pain
and tried to get from the tight hold, but of no avail. As instructed on your
blog I snugly enclosed my forefinger and thumb around his nut, so it was securely
trapped.
I looked into his surprised eyes and smiled. “Hmm, I would disagree with you on this! Now I
see it is not a myth, they are indeed highly sensitive. And I even did not perform the technique in
full!” I schooled
him using his own anatomy.
He could not believe what was happening. His lenient little
darling was laughing at him while tightly holding his ball and squeezing it. He
was totally at my merci.
When I finally released the grip, he gasped for air, curled
up and cupped his crotch with his hands.
“God damn! What
was that, Sophie! Are you nuts!” He yelled at me.
“Me, nuts? No,
you’ve got two little nuts, Sam!” I laughed
again.
At that point I started to feel guilty, so I kissed his
aching testicle to ease the pain and to show him that I am sorry. And I really was,
I have never been so vicious in my entire life. Looking back now I do not feel particularly
proud what I did.
I also explained him. “As you
told me I went online, and I read a very interesting blog describing some effective
anti-rape techniques. I was so curious to see if they are legit. But don’t
worry, I won’t test them on you anymore my little bunny (sometimes I call him
like that ๐). I
don’t want you to lose your precious reproductive and pleasure-making ‘functionality’.
We will need it.” I kissed him, this time on his lips. I felt he is forgiving
me this little ‘incident’.
He was of course interested where I got so ‘educated’. I took my tablet and showed him your blog. You should see his face when he was reading description of some of the techniques! He commented. “Not sure, I meant reading such blogs, but OK it all seems quite effective.” At some point his anger dissipated (I guess the pain as well) and that night we had a wonderful sex.
Believe or not, now I often ask him to try out some of the techniques as a part of our foreplays. Of course, I promised him not to go full force so he willingly plays a ‘cold-blooded attacker’ and helps me to simulate different sex attack scenarios so I can practice planning and execution of the most appropriate anti-rape techniques. I always verbally describe him what exactly I would do in a real situation. For instance, I told him his balls are quite big (of course, he feels proud about it) and my hands are small, so if he was a rapist, I would have to focus on only one testicle. How else would I find out these important details than by trying it out by myself?
So, I really hope the self defense class I already signed up for will be like the one Linda organizes. I am so eager and excited to learn more. I have to admit, since that ‘incident’ my self-confidence really improved. It taught me a petit girl has a real ability to take down even the strongest guy, when she knows how. So I really do not understand the number of negative comments you get from some unsupportive men. The positive impact on our safety outweighs some temporary testicular pain and maybe some occasional embarrassment. I believe it is just a little sacrifice the real men would make for us women.
Thank you again Wendy for your mission and keep up with the
great work,
Best Wishes
Sophie
Like in any other physical activity, Practice makes perfect! |
As in every activity 'Practice makes perfect!' However, always keep in mind the techniques I describe here can cause serious injury and permanent damage so please be very careful with your boyfriend when practicing.
I would be happy to read more of such inspirational stories from the readers. If you have one you can contact me via the contact form at https://femaleselfdefense.sport.blog I will share some interesting stories from my holidays as well soon.
Anonymous comments are allowed again but please be respectful. It applies to you too Evan.