I have been quite busy lately and had no time to write new posts. However, I found some time this week and today I continue with a series of posts in which I would like to look more closely at some of the myths and misconceptions often perpetrated in the self defense and martial arts community, and particularly those related to the testicles as a target. In one of my earlier entries, I already touched upon some of those controversial issues, but recently I realized some topics require more attention and a deeper discussion.
First, I would like to note that this ‘debunking’ will be
backed by some extensive and thorough research in this area done by Linda and partially
also by me. So, most of the information I will present in these posts is well
supported by scientific data, not just anecdotal evidence, or someone’s opinion.
The first myth I would like to discuss in this series is
that any hits to the testicles are not that painful, the effect is always
exaggerated in the movies, it can be shrugged off easily and, in the end, it
will just make him angry, and therefore is better to aim for…
The roots of these claims are often deeply embedded in denialism
of the existence of any male weak spot stemming from the male gender self-indulged assertion of dominance and physical superiority. When I became more interested in female self defense
I soon realized men are much more comfortable in exposing and presenting pressure
points shared between female and male bodies (e.g. eyes, knees) but
subconsciously avoid highlighting any male-specific target area. This could be because
of their qualms to expose their own vulnerability or simply this topic, in
general, creates some kind of natural embarrassment or awkwardness for a man.
For this reason, it is always better to have a lead female self-defense instructor
and male assistants as model attackers. Although extremely interesting, I don’t
want to discuss the roots of this myth in this post further and leave it for
later, so back to the main point of this post.
Many of you would maybe ask why this topic is so important. Well,
the purpose of physical self-defense is to eliminate the ability of an attacker
to continue his attack either by causing him intensive pain and/or shutting
down his vital functions (breathing, seeing) and/or his ability to move (e.g. by
breaking his knee) or via a psychological effect resulting in defusing the escalated
situation or preventing further aggression. Well executed attacks on testicles generate
not only sharp pain and physical ‘shut down’ but also affect the mental state of
an attacker. So any defensive technique that with a little effort, skills or strength would
result in these effects is a preferred defense maneuver of any woman, regardless
of her physical capabilities. So are testicles
indeed so sensitive, do they hurt so much if hit or is it just an exaggeration of
the moviemakers or wishful thinking of female self defense instructors?
To understand the best would be to start with the anatomy and physiology of the testicles. Testes are glands of inner secretion that during the human evolution appeared outside the male body pouched in the scrotum (not all males in the animal kingdom have testicles in the same awkward position). So if for instance ovaries were positioned in some funny floppy skin sacks on the body, one can be pretty sure they would be a super-sensitive target as well, but luckily for us women it did not happen😊.
Testes are covered by thousands of pain receptors and nerve endings. Their purpose is to signal the owner the danger of damage to these two vital organs. And they can be damaged easily because they hang outside and are not covered by any bones or a strong layer of muscles. Men often report so-called referred pain, especially in the stomach area. This is because during development testicles descend from the abdominal cavity to the scrotum but remain connected via the spermatic plexus with the whole sympathetic nervous system. I am a woman so I cannot describe the testicular pain. Some compare the intensity to childbirth, but I have not delivered a baby yet so again I cannot tell. The best is to listen/read about it from guys themselves.
This website collected accounts of 15 young men who describe what they feel when being hit in the testicles. Some descriptions are quite metaphoric but quite telling 😊 they all report gut-wrenching pain they do not want to experience again.
This excellent blog from Allison Gibbons and this educational video from a urologist Dr. Rena Malik describes in detail the medical details of the testicular pain response, and why there is such a plethora of physiological effects and trauma on the male.
Even the toughest MMA fighters are not immune to the testicular pain |
From these examples, one can see that the immediate reaction of a man is to bend over, fall on the floor, and assign a fetal position. Medical records report systemic effects on the body such as all-consuming pain in different body parts, nausea, convulsing, drowsiness, sweating, and increased heart rate. Vomiting and passing out is not uncommon after more serious impacts or techniques. In some cases, the attack on testicles can trigger a neurogenic shock and even death. But this rather happens in men with serious heart issues. Notably, men with hurt testicles are usually unable to continue with any sexual activities which is a side effect especially important during a rape attempt.
Try an experiment with flicking a ball. |
Admittedly, some men are naturally less prone to these effects, and it is possible that some of such instances might actually add to the myth, but this is a minority. Interestingly, Shaolin monks often condition themselves and ‘harden’ their testicles. Think, they would not do it if testicles were not their vulnerable spot! But it is highly unlikely you are going to encounter a Shaolin monk outside Asia 😊.
As with other techniques, nothing is bulletproof, and as I said numerous times the techniques have to be taught properly and executed properly, without hesitation and telegraphing. However, it is extremely empowering and revealing to get knowledge about the sensitivity of testicles and the option we have when defending ourselves. It constitutes one of the pillars of effective female self defense training, but unfortunately, it is still often ignored or shrouded in myths. I am glad it was not the case having Linda as our self defense guru.
It's sad indeed that your boyfriend will never know the extent and nature of your dishonesty -both in how you have treated him personally and your decision not to disclose the fact that you have this blog. For you, dishonesty is seen to be a positive trait.
ReplyDeleteI do not see dishonesty as a positive trait, as well as I do not see the necessity of being absolutely honest with everything and all the time.
DeleteSo, honesty when it serves your interests to be honest, and dishonesty when being dishonest serves your interest. Rather flexible principles and morality you have there….
DeleteHi Evan, I am so happy you are back. Yeah, a little big flexibility in honesty is good :). It really depends on the circumstances. You have never been dishonest in your life? Wendy
DeleteIt would be very stupid to be absolutely honest in a world where most people lie for their own benefit. In such conditions, you also have to lie to survive. Serge.
DeleteHey Wendy,
ReplyDeleteFrom reading your blog, I see that you have been very successful in deceiving your boyfriend when intentionally causing him pain in his testicles. Can you share a few tricks in how you are so good at it? Is it mostly just saying sorry in as genuine tone as you can, with a feigned look of shock in your eyes, or is there more to it than that?
I can write a post about it. But what if my boyfriend finds out about this blog? So rather not :) Wendy
Delete'However, it is extremely empowering and revealing to get knowledge about the sensitivity of testicles and the option we have when defending ourselves. It constitutes one of the pillars of effective female self defense training, but unfortunately, it is still often ignored or shrouded in myths. I am glad it was not the case having Linda as our self defense guru.'
ReplyDeleteYou forgot to add "and two male training dummies we could strike in the testicles as hard as we liked without being concern for any legal consequences"
Sure having Bob and Peter was another pillar of our self defense training :)
DeleteNow who would have thought that your fake cancer check on your boyfriend would be the only time you lied to him?
ReplyDeleteEvan, you have never lied to anyone? Don't play a saint again.
DeleteI have never lied to someone with the purpose of causing them pain- that’s a rather notable difference between you and me. I think I was dishonest years ago with a woman I knew whose boyfriend was planning a surprise getaway holiday for her. I didn’t want to ruin the surprise. Rather innocuous compared to what you’ve done, don’t you think?
DeleteLOL indeed quite innocuous actually very nice from you, but what about the anti-Wendy blog you have been bragging about all the time. Maybe there are more 'pink lies' than you want to admit, aren't there Evan?
DeleteWendy, thanks for a very interesting and helpful blog!
ReplyDeleteI have a theory - why some guys (and some girls) say that a blow to the testicles is not sensitive. They do not distinguish between a blow between the legs (groin, perineum) and a hit on the testicles. An important difference is what is said in this blog.
If hit above or below or on the penis. And it doesn't work.
It's exaggerated in the movies.
For example, a special agent girl beats a bad guy in nuts - and always hits. But a courier girl or a waitress or a nerd guy or a schoolgirl with no training? Yes it is possible. But it is important to understand what you can and what you cannot. A bad guy won't stand by and wait.
Distract attention - throw something in the face (or turn on a powerful flashlight) and immediately hit the testicles, two or three times in a row.
Of course, a lot depends on distance and height. It is good that these points are clarified here.
For me it was a small discovery. Two or more quick strikes can work better than a hard kick.
Some of the girls said that the kick didn't work, and they continued to fight until they were separated. Now I understand that they did not hit the testicles. It looks like they were hitting something behind the testicles (or in the penis), so he bent over for only 2 seconds. I hope my friends and I don't need this knowledge. But I will tell everyone I know about this blog.
P.S. from films and games you can see examples of self-defense.
For example life is strange - a concert at a sawmill. The bad guy was distracted and looked away at her friend. Then she kicked him. If she tried to hit right away, he would react and dodge. A very useful example.
I also have a few questions about some techniques.
Sorry very bad English.
Thank you for your comment. You are absolutely right, if a kick is not landed perfectly it won't have the desired effect. That's why it is important to aim for testicles and practice regularly. Kicking more times is a good approach as it would assure multiplication of the pain effect and a higher chance of one kick landing dead on. The area behind the testicles is not that sensitive, the same for the front of the groin. If women are not educated in this they might miss the opportunity in a sticky situation.
DeleteI will have a separate post about kicking and I should finish the series about kneeing. Yes, distraction is an important element I will also write a post about it. Thank you for the movie scene I will look it up. If you have any questions or comments feel free to post them and do not worry about your English, my is not perfect either. Have a nice day, Wendy
'I guarantee he will feel it and react to it. But don’t worry, the pain should dissipate completely in a couple of minutes and you can continue with lovemaking.'
ReplyDeleteWhat a hateful, vicious person you truly are. Nothing is off limits or unjustified to you when it comes to how you think woman should treat men, is there?
A gentle flick to the testicles is nothing close to 'vicious'. It can be considered as a part of exploring our bodies. I condone serious violence when unjustified regardless of gender. Wendy
DeleteRead your own original post again, dummy. You are suggesting that during lovemaking a women flick her partner's testicles with the express purpose of confirming how sensitive they are and easy it is to cause pain to a male from striking their testicles. You then go on to state that: "I guarantee he will feel it and react to it. But don’t worry, the pain should dissipate completely in a couple of minutes and you can continue with lovemaking." What a caring thing to do to a male partner...
DeleteI'm surprised that your instructions did not include strategies on how the woman might explain to her male partner - who likely lost his mood, so to speak, why she flicked his testicles? You usually offer some excuse she could use to deflect from the real reason, why not here?
Do you realize that you just stated that you CONDONE (as in accept, allow, or approve of, etc.) 'serious violence' when UNJUSTIFIED, regardless of gender??
DeleteThis statement more accurately reflects what you really believe - at least as it applies to women being violent towards men.
Evan, you know that I made a mistake and I meant 'I do not condone' but I guess I made you happy with this mistake.
DeleteEvan, well I have to admit I agree it would be better if a male partner allowed a woman to try it on him and he knew what is the purpose of this 'experiment'. But would it always happen? Again these activities have to be done gently. Wendy
Delete"I have to admit I agree it would be better if a male partner allowed a woman to try it on him and he knew what is the purpose of this 'experiment'. But would it always happen? Again these activities have to be done gently. Wendy'
DeleteSo, to be clear, you believe that is both appropriate and reasonable that a woman should be able to flick her lover's testicles with the express intent of confirming that they are very sensitive organs and doing so will cause him pain, is that correct? Whether she asks his permission to do this or follows your recommendation and just does it anyway, or alternatively does so under false pretenses (i.e. lies/deceives him and than claims it was an 'accident').
Another great example of how you view males and your seething hostility towards them.
'Evan, you know that I made a mistake and I meant 'I do not condone' but I guess I made you happy with this mistake.'
DeletePerhaps as a self-appointed 'influencer' of hatred towards men, you should check you own damn posts before you post them???
Are you actually suggesting/inferring that men have some sort of duty or obligation to allow women they are in an intimate relationship with to 'experiment' with how sensitive to pain their genitals are by pinching/flicking them????
DeleteWhat a vile human being you are Wendy!!
'Again these activities have to be done gently. Wendy'
DeleteOh I see, so as long as the woman flicks his testicles 'gently' and he recovers from the pain she inflicted on him 'within a few minutes' that makes it perfectly acceptable, is that correct?
Christ, you're a hell of a piece of work!
Wendy,
DeleteYou forgot to offer adequate guidance to women who flick their male lover's testicles without their permission, in order to confirm that they are sensitive organs and that flicking them causes him pain.
Should they laugh at him when they observe his pain response, as you laughed at Bob and Peter during you class, or would it be best for them to remain expressionless so as not to indicate they enjoyed causing him pain (even though I'm sure they would).
Please clarify for your female readers.
They should show their genuine feelings. If they find it funny they can laugh why not. This is not an epic drama.
DeleteFrom now on I will criticize all your typos and errors or better I will not accept any of such posts from you. Let's see how it works :)
DeleteMen do not have this kind of obligation sure, that's why I suggest not telling them before doing it. Some lucky women have very caring and empathetic partners and they can ask for permission and explain why. But sometimes this is not the case. We are not living in an ideal world. But don't worry Evan they will 'live to tell the tale'.
DeleteIs that your justification/rationale for women flicking the testicles of their male partners to confirm they are very sensitive and even light contacts causes them pain?
DeleteAgain, so according to you, since we are 'not living in an ideal world' (an idiotic reason to be sure), and that he will 'live to tell the tale' (I assume you mean flicking his testicles won't kill him - according to you I presume he should be thankful for that?) that doing so is just fine?
Here you go again with your comfort around dishonesty and lying. You claim that because a woman may not believe a male partner may A). Allow her to flick his testicles to confirm it hurts, or in another favorite strategy of yours, B). Allow her to locate and pinch his epididymis to confirm the extreme sensitivity of that part of his anatomy, manipulating/misleading/lying to her male partner is acceptable, correct??
Tell me Wendy, are there ANY limits you place on when doing these things to a man (lying, being deceptive, etc.) are justified and acceptable?
'From now on I will criticize all your typos and errors or better I will not accept any of such posts from you. Let's see how it works :).'
DeleteOne rather salient difference between you and anyone that posts here -in case you are incapable of grasping this, is that this is YOUR blog, and therefore it is reasonable that a higher standard and expectation is placed on you to check your narrative, grammar, etc. to ensure that you are saying what you intended to say before it appears in the public realm.
If this is too difficult a concept for you to grasp, simply provide me with your log-in information and I will edit your posts for accuracy, grammar, and spelling.
No extra charge -:).
Aaaah, that's what you want, the login so you could now promote your views without any restrictions. Fat chance Evan. You know, arguing with you takes a lot of time and effort so readers for sure can understand that as a non-native English speaker I do mistakes in grammar and typos in the comments. It is the other way around, it is you, as a native English speaker, a Canadian gentleman who bombards me with tons of comments wanting them to be approved, who should ensure that his comments have content, are decent, respectful, and free of any typos. Pity, it's not happening, Evan. Wendy
DeleteYou would do well to ensure your own posts are 'decent' before they appear on your blog Wendy. If you did, there would be a lot less content on here though...-:). Pity that's not happening as well...
DeleteI am pretty sure you would be very sad Evan if there is less content on this blog :)
DeleteWrong. It would be a joyous day indeed if this hate blog disappeared from the internet forever. In other words, 100% LESS content, as it were...
Delete-:).
Hi Evan, I hope you had a nice Easter. I know at least one Canadian guy who would be very, very sad if this blog disappears and he cannot post his comments anymore. Wendy
Delete'A gentle flick to the testicles is nothing close to 'vicious'. It can be considered as a part of exploring our bodies.'
ReplyDeleteYOU consider intentionally causing pain to a male - even one a woman is in a personal relationship with acceptable, because it reflects how you view men. 'Exploring "OUR" bodies is simply how you deflect and justify such behaviors toward men.
'I condone serious violence when unjustified regardless of gender. Wendy'
REREAD what you have just written. At least part of this statement is true. It would have been more accurate if you wrote: 'I condone serious violence towards men by women when unjustified'.
I think my justification is enough. Sometimes causing mild pain is acceptable even in a loving relationship. Tom sometimes slaps my butt. Should I cry about unjustified violence? That mistake of mine has made you happy, hasn't it Evan
Delete'I think my justification is enough.' (LOL- what a surprise here!). Sometimes causing mild pain is acceptable even in a loving relationship. Tom sometimes slaps my butt. Should I cry about unjustified violence?
DeleteCurious how you explain at great lengths in great anatomical detail how sensitive to pain a male's testicles are, yet equate what your boyfriend allegedly did to your butt as being equivalent to flicking his testicles (or those of any other man I presume). If that is the case, perhaps your pal and guiding light Linda has identified the wrong part of the male body to focus her attention on, and better shift 180 degrees or so...-:)
'I guarantee he will feel it and react to it. But don’t worry, the pain should dissipate completely in a couple of minutes and you can continue with lovemaking.'
ReplyDeleteWhy exactly should a woman who does this to her supposed partner/lover 'worry' Wendy? Based upon the values and behaviours you promote and encourage women to adopt, why should they worry about whether the pain dissipates in a few minutes, a few hours, or at all?
Further, did you consider that perhaps the male partner may have lost interest in continuing on after the pain dissipated? Of course, that would not prevent the woman from making love with herself so to speak, would it?
Women should worry about their guys' testicles even they flick them from time to time. They bring new life. Again we have a disagreement on the level of 'violence' a gentle flick to the testicles represents. You consider it the most horrible crime on Earth I consider it teasing and exploration of the male body. A matter of opinion.
DeleteI the man lost interest maybe the woman should flick him there again. :) Just kidding. Wendy
Hey Wendy, I imagine you were very inspired by Allison Gibbons blog comments, given she 'inadvertently' kicked her sparring partner in his testicles, then just stood there watching him writhe in pain and vomit. Given her values and your likely admiration for her, perhaps you should do the same next time you 'accidentally' strike a male in his testicles - be it your boyfriend you claim to love (God help him) or any other man. It's not like you give a damn about the guy(s) anyway, is it now?
ReplyDeleteHey Evan, the last sentence is utter rubbish. I do care about guys. Even you, despite all the negativism you bring to this blog. Wendy
Delete'The last sentence is utter rubbish. I do care about guys.' Guys (including your boyfriend) can do without any 'care' from you Wendy.
DeletePretty sure you would enjoy my 'care' for you Evan.
DeleteYou do care about guys, do you Wendy?
ReplyDeleteThis is why you: A. Lied to an manipulated your own boyfriend and intentionally caused him pain on at least two different occasions; B. State that you take NO responsibility for how or in what circumstances the often mutilating techniques you discuss and promote with such fervor on this blog are used; C. Completely avoid criticism of any female poster or female whose actions towards a man are posted/discussed on this blog no matter how outrageous they are to any rational thinking person; D. Weave criticism of men into almost every single post you make (I am happy to find and copy examples of this for your viewing pleasures.
There is more evidence than this - these are just top of mind for now.
-Evan
Sorry Evan I do not think you provided any compelling evidence with your points A-D that I do not care about guys. You have to try harder, sorry Evan.
DeleteDear Wendy - Love your blog. Please do not be discouraged by the rantings of threatened males who decry what you are teaching. You can almost sense the fear in their posts; the fear of what they feel they are losing. We males are taught not to hit women, not to harm them and never to rape them or assault them sexually. Our role is one of virtuous protector of the fairer sex. The key is that we have the power and it is OUR choice whether you will be safe or assaulted. The very real vulnerability of the testicles is something males have tried desperately to hide from females over the past several millennia. You, dear Wendy, are exposing this deception. A strong blow to the testicles ends a fight. All males know this. No male is more physically helpless than one who has received such a blow. Even more terrifying is what a female can do to a male, and his future fertility, once she has seized his testicles. You are showing the path whereby female make THEIR own choices about their safety, and not have to helplessly wait for a male protector. For some reason, this realization in females makes some males very scared and defensive, and hence the hostile comments you receive. Real men welcome women as equal partners in their lives and embrace their increased confidence and open sexuality. Keep the faith!
ReplyDeleteDear From the Mountain thank you very much for your comment and supporting words. It is nice to hear that there are men out there who are supporting the cause. Some men might get a wrong impression, but there is really no hostility or hate from my site towards men, I just want to provide crucial information to women so they can defend themselves when needed. This is often unfortunately unvoiced for many reasons. I can understand it makes some men uneasy and upset, and I do not blame them for that, just that the discussion has to have some decency. Thank you again for your support, and have a nice day, Wendy
DeleteTo Evan, I told you many times you have to behave and if you want your comments to be posted you have to show some decency and respect for me and other readers. You are very good at picking the wrongdoings of other people yet you cannot see your own. Just read your comments you want to be posted and think for a moment before submitting some new. Wendy
ReplyDelete'Some men might get a wrong impression, but there is really no hostility or hate from my site towards men..'
DeleteLOL. I JUST looked at the date of your post above that contains this statement and realized that you posted it on April 1st, which is of course April Fools Day in many countries (not sure about Bananaland). Now that statement makes a lot more sense (but is no less truthful of course..-:).
-Evan
Have a great week Wendy!
ReplyDeleteThanks, you too!
DeleteSee Wendy, I wished you a have nice week... -:)
ReplyDeleteEvan (and I did)
Thank you Evan, you can be a very nice guy (just sometimes). :) Wendy
DeleteTell me Wendy, do you REALLY (as in truly, honestly, not kidding) believe that I wish you, as in Wendy the person ill? In other words, do you actually believe I wish that harm comes to you in any way? Seriously.
Delete- Evan
Maybe something got lost in translation, but neither I have ever said nor do I believe you wish any harm to anybody including me. Maybe if we came to Nord Amerika with Linda to kidnap you for her self defense course :)? But this is not going to happen, you would be a terrible assistant, sorry to say Evan. We just stick with Bob and Peter :) Wendy
DeleteWell, I am MOST surprised to hear that you would not want me as a training 'assistant'. After all, I have no doubt that if you wanted to strike (full force) any man in his testicles, it would be me... -:)
Delete- Evan
I'll answer my previous question that I posed to you Wendy- I DO NOT.
ReplyDelete-Evan
Looking at it one way, at least if I got kicked in the testicles by you, I'd have the 'satisfaction' of knowing I got kicked by the best. I trust I could count on you to get an ice pack for me too though... :o).
ReplyDelete-Evan
Evan, you can be a pain in the ass sometimes but you are definitely not on the top of the list of men I would like to kick in the testicles (some politicians are). I know icepack can be provided but no caressing or touching :) Wendy
DeleteGood to know.
ReplyDeleteNow on to more serious topics. You said: "Some men might get a wrong impression, but there is really no hostility or hate from my site towards men,...".
After all the comments you've made on your blog towards and about men, how can you make such a ludicrous claim? Seriously...
-Evan
Which comments exactly? Mentioning that testicles are sensitive and men should wear protection during sports is a sign of hatred towards men? Seriously Evan?
Delete'I know icepack can be provided but no caressing or touching :) Wendy'
ReplyDeleteWhat, you wouldn't care about your new 'darling attacker' as much as you did the other one?
-:)
It depends on the dedication of a 'darling attacker'. Bob and Peter deserved all the attention and caressing, you would deserve only a repeated kick and an icepack deducted from your paycheck. Just kidding :) The problem with you as an assistant would be that you would just scream after each groin kick or knee: Unacceptable! Pussy pass! Hatred towards men! Shut down this course! No Evan, just stay in Canada :) Wendy
DeleteI did not want to offend you Evan (although you offend me all the time), you might be a brave guy, but face it, that's how your attitude towards Linda's course and her training methods is. Wendy
DeleteBob and Peter deserved better treatment from you, which would have meant you staying the hell away from them after one of your many 'accidental' strikes to their testicles. If Linda truly gave a crap about the welfare of those guys (she didn't), she would have thrown your ass out of the course after that full-force strike to Bob's groin.
DeleteSo, as I understand it, Bob and Peter participated in more than one full self-defense course, each of which consisted of X number of classes. They each got struck in the testicles many times during each course. How many courses in total did they serve as 'training assistants' in again?
ReplyDeleteYes, they did, at least the one after ours. I do not know exactly as many. I will make an interview in the future with one of them. Yes, maybe they are now like Shaolin monks after so many hits to their testicles :)
DeleteReally Wendy? If Bob or Peter (hopefully!) find out about this blog first, do you think it is more likely that: A. That one or the other will agree to be interviewed by you, or B. That both of them will just tell you to f-off and go straight to hell?
DeletePlace your answer (A or B) in your response...
The right answer is C, they both would be very supportive and will agree to an interview :) I can do an interview with you as well, but you have to behave Evan.
Delete'Yes, maybe they are now like Shaolin monks after so many hits to their testicles :).'
ReplyDeleteAnother classic dumbass claim of yours Wendy. There is no medical evidence whatsoever that repeated strikes to a man's testicles in any way 'toughen' them against future strikes. Just another idiotic statement of yours to defend what Bob and Peter were subject to by you, Linda, and the other bitches in your course.
Have a tremendously shitty weekend.
The most compelling evidence is from Shaolin monks themselves. How do you think they toughen their testicles? By repeated strikes. I am not recommending this practice by any means, though. I wish you a very nice weekend Evan. Wendy
Deleteclearly some (if not all) male commentators here wish to toughen their testicles but they do not want to go through the process lol!!
DeleteLOL, exactly, instead of angrily commenting on this blog, they should spend time toughening their testicles :)
DeleteThey should keep in mind " no pain no gain " lol
Delete'I know what I am talking about as I tried that on Tom. He still thinks it was an accident though..'
ReplyDeleteLOL. Great ruse Wendy! You are sure getting good at lying to your boyfriend, then causing him pain, and him not realizing that you intended to hurt him all along! What a great skill to have that will help you a lot when you talk the guy into marrying you. You're a great role model for other women, to be sure!!!
You talk like everything I have been doing to Tom is deceiving him and causing him pain in his testicles. You missed that we actually passionately made love together afterward. Is it moral what I did? Possibly not. I leave the judgment to the readers. But calling me all the time a vile bi-ch and using other disgusting words in the comments is not moral either Evan.
DeleteWhether you two fornicated like rabbits for hours on end does not change the fact that you AGAIN intentionally caused your so-called boyfriend pain. What you did was immoral - not that morality is part of the compass by which you live your life, because it isn't. You're mostly guided by hatred of men and disseminating your hatred through this blog.
DeleteHi Wendy,
DeleteYour interview with Linda said that she recommend eye gouge as a good self-defense step, and that if we had a male partner we could practice this on him. Can this actually be done? I understand that we can flick his testicles and simply apologize and say it was an accident -:), but is it really possible to practice 'gouging' his eyes without causing actual damage? Most of us don't want to do that to our husbands, but I guess if it's important to practice it's a risk they should take.
Thanks!
Melinda.
Hi Melinda, I will write a post about practicing different techniques of self defense techniques on male partners. Yes, it is dangerous and should be done with the highest precaution, who wants to have a blinded and castrated husband :) BTW I like your smiley, Evan uses the same :) Wendy
DeleteWhy would a liar, and man-hater like you care at all if you or any other female caused a male partner to lose his eyesight permanently or be castrated?
DeleteI do care, if these things are done outside of self defense situation it is a horrible crime.
DeleteFirst of all, the word is BITCH, not bi-ch. Also, 'thou' is a very archaic form of 'though', so use the proper form of that word in your posts.
ReplyDeleteSecond, deceiving your boyfriend and lying to him is NOT MORAL - there is no 'possibly not' about it. Only you, given your hateful views of men justify most anything a woman does to a man, as is evidenced by this blog. If is has a purpose - as constructed by you, it is appropriate and justified. Hardly compelling reasons to any rational person.
Evan, if you just corrected my English you would be a very helpful reader of my blog and you would be welcome. Maybe you should stick just to that and leave all that pathetic fight for moral justice and your judgment of others' relationships.
DeleteLOL. You judge others - well, men at least, ALL THE TIME on this blog, by virtue of the behaviours and actions you recommend women take against them. Just like the actions you've taken against your own supposed boyfriend - someone you supposedly love. Yup, you're a beacon of morality and role model, for sure...
DeleteI have never said I am a beacon of morality Evan, maybe you are. I advocate women take good care of their significant others, including their most sensitive parts. No exception, OK maybe some explorations for the purpose of exploring male bodies and gaining self defense knowledge are allowed :). Wendy
DeleteIt is easy to see how come men say you lie a lot and also hate men wh3n you say things like this. You say it’s ok for a woman to cause pain to a man so she can learn how to hurt him. That is cruel and it isn’t right.
DeleteSorry, sometimes I am saying things tongue in cheek. Hurting someone (regardless of sex) for no reason is not good. Wendy
DeleteWhen I was young I was always wondering why these fighters end up like that
ReplyDeleteTheir strength is in their limbs, their weakness is in their testicles :)
DeleteHi Wendy!! I have not commented here ever, but I wanted to add to your post.
ReplyDeleteI’m training at a BJJ gym and many guys refuse to roll with me because I’m female and they assume I won’t be a “challenge” to them. I’ve rolled with both my (very cocky) brothers and have certainly faced a lot of these assumptions at home too. It’s nice to have a blog that is super honest and unapologetic about fighting tactics against men. It sounds a bit mean, but since groin attacks aren’t allowed at the BJJ gym (obviously), I have occasionally done it to my brothers if they’re really bullying me. Nothing like some retribution 😎
Something I think that’s cool to mention. In MMA, it’s actually MANDATORY for men to wear cups for their testicles. So, in that Youtube video you linked, all those guys are shaking and crying even though they have a cup. I’ve heard from a friend that it gets rid of like 90% of the pain, but since their testicles are so sensitive, the 10% can still stagger them. Those MMA men are kicking HARD, so it does more than stagger them.
But imagine if they didn’t have cups on… most men “in the wild” don’t wear cups. So, those MMA videos really reveal how much pain you can cause them if you train. Sorry boys, but hitting a cupless groin with the strength of a trained striker reduced men to crying babies. That’s a bit bold but it’s not like men can deny it without lying.
Hi, thanks for your comment and for sharing your experience. BJJ is nice martial art, kudos to you for practicing it. Maybe men do not want to roll with you because they are afraid you sneakily use their little weakness (despite the rules) and they are not going to look so cool anymore :) I did not know the cups are actually mandatory in MMA. I would have never guessed from the videos I have seen. It seems unless they wore some kind of knight steel armory their testicles are not safe :) Well, they have to get used to it. Sorry guys. Thanks for your interesting comment again. Have a nice day, Wendy
Delete‘Well, they have to get used to it. Sorry guys’. That ‘sorry guys’ has about as much authenticity and care in it as the ‘sorry Bob’ you claimed you choked out after kneeing him full force -accidentally of course, in his testicles. Which is to say, none at all…
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand 'Sorry Evan' is genuine and from my heart ;) Wendy
DeleteLOL. Whatever. You're have a strong propensity for lying Wendy. It's an integral part of your character.
DeleteI learn so many new English words with you, Evan, I am not lying now I swear :)
DeleteIt can’t come from your heart, you don’t have one…
DeleteWhy are you so offensive Evan? I have never done anything to you, on the contrary, I am very patient with you because I like you and feel sorry for you. If you were more decent and not vulgar I can publish your comments and discuss the points of mutual disagreements. Wendy
DeleteNot to mention the completely fake ‘apologies’ you claimed you offered your own boyfriend following the various ‘accidents’ you initiated with the specific intention of causing him pain. You’re vile and hateful, with a blog that reflects those characteristics, admit it.
ReplyDeleteHow are you Evan? No, I won't admit I am vile and hateful because it is not true at all. My apologies to Tom were genuine as are my apologies to you for the distress this blog caused you. Wendy
DeleteWhy would you apologize to Tom after intentionally doing something to his body that you KNEW would cause him pain? The ONLY reason would be to maintain the lie that is was accidental, so he didn’t realize the type of person that you really are. There was nothing genuine in your fake apologies whatsoever.
DeleteMaybe it was an apology for my uncontrollable curiosity :)
DeleteAny good intentions claimed by you are about as genuine as a three dollar bill is over here. Lets' see, you intentionally deceive/lie to him with the objective of confirming that a sensitive part of his anatomy causes him pain if flicked/pinched, etc. , and you actually expect anyone capable of rational thought to believe your subsequent apologies (if even made) to him were genuine? Really? Good God Wendy...
ReplyDeleteYou have never done something intentionally and then realized it was bad and apologized? We do not live in an ideal world Evan.
DeleteMaybe you should apologize for once calling me all the time a man-hater and vile sadistic bi.ch etc.
DeleteAccording to you and the 'standards' you live by, what you did to Tom and Bob were good. Your actions taken against your own boyfriend were INTENDED to confirm they caused him pain, and for NO other reason. You EXPECTED that result, since you had researched male anatomy extensively with the ONLY purpose of finding out how best to maximize pain to a male and cause permanent ( as in injuries not repairable by medical professionals) physical damage (aka male genital mutilation). So stop the f-ing bullshit and lying for once!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteThe post its an incredible source of knowledge on the subject of woman self defense. although as a man there is one thing i have to add.
ReplyDeleteIts true on general a kick to the balls will make you win even on the most dire situation. Even the weakest woman on verge of a KO, if in the last second she can sneak her foot between his legs and kick good her attacker will collapse on the ground for an eternity.
The truth i have to add. IT CAN BE WAY WORSE...
Instead of the weakest woman lets start with a woman with competent martial art experience. Also she distracted and ensnared the guy she plan to kick in such a way he is leg spreaded expecting anything but a kick.
Then she delivers her best kick to her 2 targets....
Im not exaggerating saying he will be on floor at least half an hour. but there is more.
while he is incapacitated she can do whatever she wants to him, for example a permanent damage back heel kick to his nose.
The ball kick itself may have caused permenent damage.
And on last the experience quite likely caused psycological damage on an attacker that most likely not only would ever attack the same woman, but would be somewhat scared on woman on general.
Finally its not a special whole consuming bar move. even if the attacker is still on his feet she just can kick his balls like any other place. and that would deter most man of continue the fight.
keep the good work.
Hi Wendy,
ReplyDeleteI will admit that our testicles are so sensitive and that is very embarrassing for me because I feel that I am weak, I am trying to hide that for long time to avoid the embarrassment, is there a way to make me secure and not feel embarrassed about my testicles ?
Hi, you should not feel embarrassed. You men are just naturally made this way to have vulnerable testicles between your legs. They are the source of your male characteristics such as strength and are required for the propagation of the human race. If you are nice to girls and women your testicles should be safe :) During sports always wear a cup. Find a partner who likes to play with your testicles gently generating pleasure. Be proud of your testicles and accept them as they are. Hope this helps. Have a nice day, Wendy
Deletethe problem is that I always feel insecure, even during everyday activity I always fear getting hit in my testicles, that idea stuck in my mind.
ReplyDeleteWell maybe you should get kicked in the testicles (ask your girlfriend/wife), it would be a painful experience but it may overcome your fear in the future. Wendy
DeleteHI Wendy on this one I curious. If you gave an attacker your best kick direct on his testicles. Would he be so in pain you could even beat him on a fair fight next? despite You use multiple testicle strikes on a defense secunce. Would that kick be decisive by itself?
ReplyDeleteHi André, well I do think kicking testicles hard is a fair fight! I think after such a kick he would think twice to get involved again in a fight with that woman and if he would be so protective of his testicles lowering his guard around other vulnerable areas. If possible multiple strikes are the best to ensure he is 100% out. Usually, one good hit is 'decisive'. Regards, Wendy
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