The maple syrup on female self defense

I was so  surprised to find out that a single post describing a legit self defense technique on my little blog, which even does not appear on Google search, got tens of comments just in a couple of days. A great anger suddenly flooded my blog. Many, apparently male commenters, were accusing me of sadism, of being a supporter of gender double standards, promoter of violence against men, domestic abuse criminal, a violator of sensitive medical data and a hopeless mental health case. Well, at least the accusation of witchcraft was missing. Thanks God we are not living in the 16th century anymore, but I had a feeling that I appeared and whatever I would say, it will be twisted, and I will be just yelled at: ‘Confess to the sins of sadism and men hatred, otherwise you will burn on the stake!’ Listen, noble well-educated gentlemen, using a sophisticated langue does not make you automatically right.

Female self defense is not a piece of cake to be
 covered by a thick layer of sweet maple syrup

Based on the traffic data, one can easily estimate that app. 90% of the commenters come from Canada. I do understand that Canadian society is more similar to the EU than to the US, the gender societal issues might be a hot topic of debates there, but I doubt that was the true reason. Therefore, I ask here again for an explanation of the reason if anybody knows.

Maple syrup is a great traditional product of Canada. On pancakes it is a delicacy but putting it on salty dishes in excessive amounts would just spoil them. Most commenters would be happy if the touchy topic of female self defense is covered by a thick layer of maple syrup so we do not reach the possible bitter taste inside which might disgrace us. I acknowledge that many men might be distressed by my blog (I wanted to use the word ‘triggered’ but I didn’t because one commenter would be deeply triggered 😊). However, I will not sugar-coat this extremely important aspect of women’s safety by dumping it into a sweet maple syrup as others do, to mitigate any male anxiety and their qualms of potential misuse. This has been done for decades and the results are meetoo movement, sexual abuse, avoidable rape cases as well as some other adverse gender-related societal issues we are currently experiencing, and the commenters are not fond of. Me neither.

There was a comment which basically summarizes my stand on these issues. It got completely ignored so I am pasting it again now and I thank the commenter again for formulating it for me:

I've been following your "debate" and really don't understand where your detractors are coming from. Placing limits on your response to an attack would simply be playing into the predator's hands. The truth is that if you are going to go for the balls, you have to seriously go for the balls - setting a limit could prove to be a fatal mistake. Also, these moves have to be practised if you're to stand any chance of making them work. The practice needs to be as realistic as possible. Being squeamish could be a serious drawback. Finally, it's not your fault that the male anatomy includes such a vulnerability.

Self defense is on the periphery of interests of women worldwide and I want to change it. Please do not jump on me now again with your evergreen hypocrisy that you fully support that women have a right to defend themselves from rape, but at the same time please do not talk about rupturing testicles ever! It is no no!. A slap to the face should suffice. A rapist will for sure change his mind immediately.

Do not portray women as stupid and immature individuals unable to judge about an appropriate response. Yes, I admit tragic accidents can happen, and women can misbehave the same way, men misbehave (as we learned from one of the commenters). And I regret those instances, but are those the majority? One can be certain that more men suffer and die due to the knife stab wounds inflicted by their partner than by the nutcracker technique. I am pretty sure a movement called ‘ban knives’ would not have that many supporters as a ‘ban testicle self defense techniques’ movement!

Everybody should have an internal compass what is overboard and what is not. What is justified and what is not. Morality and personal judgment are, however not axiomatic. Laws are dynamic and different, personal views are different and human reactions to serious situations are different. My mission is not to preach but to provide self defense information. I do not take the responsibility for misusing the information the same way as knife producers do not take the responsibility for knife-inflicted wounds. You are supporter of men’s right and against double standards fine, but go somewhere else. You wont make much impact here. 

During my University times I attended a self defense course which was, by any standards, a normal self defense course, that is for sure. I wanted to provide a glimpse on such a course and why it was so good. Whatever happened there was consensual and nobody got permanently hurt. Was pain involved? Yes, as in most other type of trainings, e.g. I do not recommend watching a ballet drill. Was there a possibility of serious testicular injury? Yes, as with some other sports. A study found that almost 50% of young lacrosse players experienced a testicular injury! See: https://www.goldjournal.net/article/S0090-4295(14)00984-4/fulltext  

So actually, our course holds quite good statistics in this regard. Well done Linda!😊. Were Bob and Peter psychologically abused? No, at least not to the point they would not handle it as real men. They are not pussies. They got some (cute) balls to serve as our assistants whatever it took.   

I am not a men hater. OK, I admit I am an eccentric person with some sadistic tendencies, and I do use sometime an inappropriate language, but nobody is perfect. Once I lied to my boyfriend and performed a fake testicular cancer check on him and squeezed his epididymis. I already confessed, should I be ashamed for it forever? Am I the only one on this world whoever did this to a loving partner?

I consider testicles odd appendages of male body but also essential for human procreation. As proud, male-defining organs they should be protected and dignified but not always! There are instances, we women can take the full advantage of their vulnerability. I love to fondle my boyfriend’s testicles but at the same time I know how to seriously injure them and I convey that information to other women. Troubling? Maybe for some, but I do not care. Should I rather focus to describe and comprehensively list the situations when self defense is justified. No, I don’t think so. The noble commenting gentlemen can do it on their blogs if they wish, I do not have anything against it.

I hope that now I satisfied the hunger for clarification and explaining my stand. I will keep the comments anonymous and nonmoderated but do not expect I will enroll in another round of non-productive intellectual discourses, especially as I believe I already explained myself enough.  Soon I will post an interview with one of my course mates so we will get another woman’s perspective on the course. I hope I will also manage to make an interview with Linda soon and she might also clarify some things. And I will continue with the techniques and inspirational stories. My warm wishes to the great people of vast cold snowy Canadian lands. Enjoy the maple syrup and make love not ballbusts.